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Of a Physical Nature Spent a couple of hours wandering around Fairview with Ava today. There was a lot of talking and half hearted shopping/browsing and (on my part at least), a lot of people watching. I'm not sure if I've told you guys this but I'm a very avid people watcher. I'm particularly fond of staring out the window at people at intersections when I'm being driven/driving around downtown Toronto in a car. I like looking at the variety of people, seeing how they dress, how they interact and occasionally, imagining what kind of people they may be; what kind of lives they may lead. Anyway, I digress. There was some talk about the difference in treatment of the physique and clothing style of men and women which sparked off a chain of thought in my mind. This whole thing actually touches on another cnversation I had with Helen the night bfore or so about how some female singers/celebrities feel the need to sell a sort of sex symbol as well as their albums while others don't and let their music/work do the talking for them. I started thinking along two lines at that point, one being that I found it kind of strange that a girl who dresses in skimpy clothing is considered a slut while a guy in just a pair of shorts and nothing else isn't. Another being, where did the stigma with being less than fully clothed evolve from? To me personally, I'd be really hard pressed to name something more beautiful to simply look upon in this world than the female form. I see it just about everywhere, I also see it all the time and yet, I'm still fascinated and entranced by it wherever I go. This doesn't mean that I go around and hit on, or even want to get it on with every woman I see; far, far from it. Whether I let on or not, I do notice women, especially the more comely ones when I'm out somewhere. with this as it is, I see the same scantily clad women in commercials, movies, and even outside in the world and I'm not sure why it's such a reprehensible thing. To be sure, there are lines of "appropriate" behaviour and dress that should ideally not be crossed but I don't find it to be such a disgusting thing when it is...just ill-advised. I know that this is meandering, but I guess that my main point was that I'm not sure why women showing off their figures is stacked with so much more social stigma than it is for a guy. Is it just because women have more...'interesting' areas than guys do? Or something completely different? I dunno, I just don't think I get it...say there's some woman in...shall we say 'inappropriate' attire and I saw this and was mildly attracted, would that be wrong in a moral sense? Or more along the lines of frowned upon? Today at the mall, I saw a fair amount of women dressed inappropriately...but in the same respect, I saw various men that were dressed strangely too. I heard a pair of girls walking by call this one woman "a skank" when she was out of earshot and yet, nobody around the guy walking by gave him a second glance except for me. I'm well aware that different people have different preferred styles and all but c'mon, if you can see the guy's nipples and other...unmentionables below the waist poking up through the clothes, how is that useful as clothing?! The wind hitting your clothes would be just the same as the wind hitting your skin. It was almost like he was wearing spandex XD. Some extra skin here and there, I can handle...but clothing that shows every single contour...ehhh, not my cup of tea I'd say, regardless of if it's on a man or a woman :P. Men and women are fundamentally different. In a whole bunch of little ways. I know that going off on mad tangents, but my mind's flitting. I remember having a conversation with Derek, Amanda and Lauren once at lunch not too long ago (come to think of it, I think that was the day that Juliette came to visit), and in some way or another, the conversation got around how men and women were turned on. HOW this became the subject of our discussion, I have no idea, but discuss it we did and came to some interesting ideas. We eventually settled on the idea that the driving factor of sexual attraction in males was mainly physical, it was all about what they saw whereas for women, it was more about the things they heard (things that touched a chord within them as opposed to just noises of lust and such). Regardless of the veracity of the conclusions or not, it was a fairly interesting lunch as we kicked this topic around. Needless to say though, there is a world of difference between lust and attraction. In most guys, sad to say, it's not all that hard to incite lust. Just plonk an attractive woman in front of him showing lots of skin. Give him a bit to consider that and his imagination will do the rest of the work. Note that though I say "most guys," I'm not really excluding myself from this either. Regardless of whether people are in a relationship or not...well, as my sister is fond of saying, "just because I'm taken doesn't mean I'm blind." It's just that I find that most people in good relationships tend to really have eyes only for their partner and so this doesn't really matter. Lust, for guys anyway, is easy to come by. I don't really know how it's brought about in women and to be honest, I don't think that I really want to know. It's not lust that I'm interested in but attraction. It's the little things that people do that make them so hard to live without that I want to know about. The main idea and strength behind lust lies in the fact that it's rather primal, it's needed to ensure the continuation of the race. As a base drive in our makeups, it's typically strong, right from the get-go and it's very simplicity is what gives it it's strength and makes it BORING. Again, I feel the need to point out that I'm not putting myself above it or anything; it comes over me on a fairly regular basis as well. I'd much rather have one woman around me, elegantly attired and try to win her heart than to have a group of naked ones who just want to make babies. In a lot of occasions, not enough clothes becomes a horribly uncomfortable situation. For instance, me and my sister and Sam have taken my 12-15 year old cousins to watch Wedding Crashers, thinking that it would be sort of like American Pie in terms of vulgarity at the worst. Good lord, there's sex EVERYWHERE in that movie. Me, my sister and Sam were sort of squirming in our seats through the whole movie (in between laughing), shooting glances at the two little cousins next to us. or worse, ever watch a movie with a sex scene that you didn't know would be in it with your PARENTS? I remember watching Taking Lives once with my sister, David and my mom...now none of us had seen it before and none of us knew that there would be like...this 10 minute long, fairly explicit sex scene with Jolie and Hawke. I remember feeling SO awkward about this and just about screaming in my head at the tv, "PUT ON SOME DAMNED CLOTHES ALREADY!" XD. Yeesh, it just went on, and on and on...horribly traumatizing experience, with my mom muttering the whole time about what kind of strange movies we chose to watch haha. All in all, long and meandering rambling rant coming to a close and yes, I'm well aware that I'm ending somewhere very, VERY far away from where I began but meh, what can you do? ^.^" Final words? I'd take attraction over lust anytime, anywhere. |